‘I wish I’d had this conversation five years ago, I think it could have saved my marriage.’
When a man called Luke* said this to me at a networking event, I’d already written most of my book on menopause for men. But it cemented for me exactly why I wrote it.
Luke had asked me what I did for work and when I told that I was a menopause educator and coach Luke told me he thought the menopause had contributed to the break-up of his marriage.
He spoke of his ex’s mood changes, libido changes, how he’d felt rejected, and thought it was about him. He wasn’t blaming her, or saying he was a victim – he was simply describing what he felt had happened.
And how he, like many men, didn’t know how to cope with it.
He’s not the first man to have said this to me over the years in my line …